Social media sometimes can be viewed as a self-centered tool. When we have 500 connections with different people, all the posts about “me, me, me” can be overwhelming.
I try to teach my daughter to use social networks as a new method of communicating and sharing. I make it a point of cautioning her to use discretion, when sharing anything personal. As many have heard by now, “what you say can and will be held against you” is not limited to a court of law.
This morning we both woke up from dreams where we were criticized for posting something on Facebook and/or Twitter. Coincidence? I think not. We discussed briefly and went about our day including attending church. Today’s sermon, as it turned out, was about communication. The pastor’s intent was to focus on marriages (differences in speaking to your spouse or your friends, etc). What struck me was a verse we looked up.
Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone..
I know, I know … some people stopped reading right after the word church. Well, guess what? If you’re still with me, you’ll probably agree that each of us, whether we worship or meditate, pray or chant, lives by standards. These standards may be rules, regulations or general guidelines at work or school. If by chance you don’t have standards, well go get some!
OK, back to my original point. The Good Book (best-selling among all books) says “go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone.” My personal translation is that before we criticize someone or hold a grudge, the best first step is to approach each other and discuss the problem. I like it!
Before I tell the world about “somebody did me wrong”, I’ll go talk to that somebody. If he or she doesn’t want to hear it, then I feel no guilt telling the world about the problem. If ever accused of airing dirty laundry, my defense is “I went to the person responsible, they didn’t want to talk about it”. After all, friends look out for each other – I wouldn’t want to see someone else go through the same problems.
Ah, I feel much better now. I don’t have anything special to tell anyone (and if I did, that would be handled in private).
Do YOU have any personal guidelines for communication?